How do I know if working with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH is right for me?
Find out if IFS might be for you.
IFS is incredibly different from traditional talk therapy, so how do you know whether working with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH is the right next step in YOUR healing journey?
Let’s explore who this kind of therapy can really help, and also when it might not be the right fit.
Who IFS Therapy Is Especially Helpful For
IFS therapy is especially effective for healing attachment wounds, which often show up as anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or emotional reactivity. I work particularly well with high-functioning adults who feel like they should be fine, but know deep down that they’re not; people who know their patterns are connected to their past, but haven’t yet found a way to shift them.
I work with:
Self-aware, overwhelmed adults who feel like they’re carrying too much.
Those who grew up as the "good kid" or "responsible one", and in many ways are still living that role, often at their own expense.
Parents who want to stop blowing up at their kids, and relate to them from a place of curiosity and connection.
People longing for peace inside, who are tired of managing anxiety or suppressing anger, and want to truly heal.
Anyone whose own behaviors or reactions drive them crazy or are getting in the way of more connected, authentic relationships.
If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering, "I have an amazing life- why do I feel so heavy on the inside?" IFS therapy might be exactly what you’ve been looking for.
When an IFS Therapist Might Not Be the Right Fit
IFS can be profoundly healing, but it’s not always the right fit for every stage of your journey.
IFS may not be the best approach:
If you’re currently in an unsafe environment: It would make no sense to ask protective parts of you to relax when they are protecting you from real, ongoing threats. While IFS could still help you understand yourself better and find clarity, the deeper work would have to wait until there’s more stability. Your safety always comes first.
If you’re primarily looking for tools and coping strategies: IFS focuses on internal healing rather than teaching external techniques. If you’re looking for someone to coach you through breathing exercises or grounding tools, that’s not my approach. From an IFS lens, these are often manager strategies to avoid pain, and while they can certainly be helpful, by themselves they don’t create lasting change.
If you’re seeking direct advice or problem-solving: In IFS, the wisdom comes from within you. I won’t tell you what to do, but I will help you listen to the parts of you that are coming up around a decision so you can move forward with clarity and compassion.
If you’re looking for a space to simply vent: Because IFS is about getting to know yourself, events and emotions from the week are just starting points to understand the parts of you that were activated by your experiences. If you just want a listening ear and to talk through your week, this approach may not feel like the right match.
If you’re not interested in exploring your inner world: This work is all about turning inward with curiosity. If that’s not for you, IFS may not be the best fit.
These are all valid, helpful ways of seeking support—and I want you to get the kind of care that’s right for you. If IFS doesn’t feel like the right match, I’d be happy to help you find another therapist in Rochester, NH who’s a better fit for your current needs.
How to Know You’re Ready for This Work
You’re tired of staying on the surface.
You feel a deep knowing that your patterns have roots, and you’re ready to explore them.
You’re open to being with your experience in a new way, with compassion, even if you don’t fully know how to do that yet.
You’re not just looking to cope, you want real change.
If any of this resonates with you, IFS might be your next step.
Ready to Work with a Therapist in Rochester, NH Who Offers A Deeper Approach?
If you’ve been longing for a different kind of therapy, one that reaches beneath the surface and gently helps you heal, I’d love to connect.
I’m a therapist in Rochester, NH who specializes in IFS therapy for adults who are ready to break generational cycles, heal emotional wounds, and come home to themselves. Whether you meet with me in my cozy office or online from anywhere in New Hampshire, this work can be a powerful turning point.
If you are ready to discover who you really are, and FINALLY find relief from the pain of the past- I’d be honored to walk alongside you.
