Your sweetest, most vulnerable parts often get the most hurt.  These parts are often very young, and take on negative messages about the world or about themselves. They internalize the shame of these beliefs, and hold emotions that are so painful to experience that your system exiles them instead.  Read on to learn more about exiled parts, and power they have for inner healing.

When I start to feel overwhelmed, I have a part that numbs me out.  If I look too long at all the unfinished, imperfect areas of my life, I can start to feel that familiar shame: I am failing at this.  It’s much better to not look, distract myself, think about meaningless things for a while.

In IFS language, this is one of my firefighter parts. Another one turns to food to soothe stress. Read on to learn more about firefighters, and their heroic role in your system.

Through the lens of IFS, the parts of me (and you) that track, plan, and organize are called “manager” parts.  In our inner systems, manager parts are concerned with emotional safety. It is their job to keep you from being overwhelmed by the pain that’s inside of you; to keep it locked away, the door closed tightly.  This can take a tremendous amount of effort. Once healing happens, managers can finally relax.

When you begin IFS work with a therapist in Rochester, NH, you are building a new relationship with yourself.  The more time you spend nurturing your system, the deeper your new connection becomes.  Many clients find that gentle practices between sessions can help parts feel seen, supported, and more connected to Self.

When you begin working with a therapist in Rochester, NH who uses the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach, you may find yourself surprised by the intensity—not in a bad way, but in a deep, meaningful, body-level kind of way. And just like your body might feel sore after a physical massage, your emotional system might feel tender after session.

If you’ve scheduled your first session with a therapist in Rochester, NH who practices IFS (Internal Family Systems), you might be wondering: What’s the best way to prepare for my session?

When you're working with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH, you begin to see how those reactive, confusing, or even downright frustrating moments are usually a part stepping in and taking over. You might notice that moments which used to feel overwhelming or confusing now feel more understandable.

When I created the logo for my practice as a therapist in Rochester, NH, I wanted more than just a symbol; I wanted an image that truly reflected the heart of the work I do through Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. Every part of the logo was chosen with intention, rooted in the values of wholeness, compassion, and the beautiful complexity of being human.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is more than just a method, it’s a way of being. As more people learn about this compassionate, non-pathologizing approach, a common question arises: Can I do this work on my own, or do I need a therapist? If you’re exploring IFS and wondering whether to go solo or work with a therapist in Rochester, NH, keep reading.

 IFS is incredibly different from traditional talk therapy, so how do you know whether working with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH is the right next step in YOUR healing journey?

When you work with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH, you will learn to identify and get to know your parts. As you start to notice the strategies that you tend to use the most often, you may begin to recognize parts as they come up for you. We get curious about the parts that are coming up again and again.

So, how do we do it? Read on to find out what actually happens in the therapy room.

If you’re thinking about getting started with an IFS therapist in Rochester, NH, you might be wondering what IFS is and what it’s all about. Imagine for a moment that every person, including you, has a core "self," as well as a system of parts (aspects of our personality) that make up who we are. That's IFS in a nutshell. Keep reading for a deeper explanation.